When she told me about her fiance she started with, "he's so kind."
My heart melted.
I love him already.
Because as far as I can tell, there is nothing like kindness to make life together happy ever after.
Which, I think, is not the message I grew up believing. Not the message I believed for far too long as an adult.
I always thought if I was pretty enough (and submissive enough, tbvh - thanks church), I could snag a hot husband. Then we would never stop being in love with each other's gorgeousness and live happily ever after.
But ... I have a lot of really gorgeous friends who have mediocre or even downright miserable marriages. Gorgeousness is apparently not the ticket.
Kindness, though? All the happiest people I know are kind, and if they're married, are married to someone kind.
Kindness doesn't fade. It is a quality that grows more appealing and desirable the more it's practiced.
Patrick and I would not win any sort of attractiveness contest unless we were the judges, but I am incontestably attracted to him. We have so much fun together, so much joy. You can be vulnerable and open and completely yourself if you are held close in a deeply kind heart. You don't need to play games, be fake, or hide anything at all when you are with someone kind. There's trust and true intimacy when kindness is the mode of your relationship.
Love is patient, love is kind.♥️
Get you a partner who works on their gentleness, patience, goodness. Then, no matter what they look like, you'll be smitten forever.
Congratulations to my friends on their wedding day. God bless you now and always!
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